Waking up because September ends

"as my memory rests

but never forgets what I lost

wake me up when September ends"

~Wake Me Up When September Ends, Green Day

It will be almost a week since my last post. As of now I'm still contemplating on what will be my next post. Reviewing my welcome note (my first article) , I have seen that I have a lot of reasons to write. I might be still in the stigma of the recent events that have occurred. However, life must go on. And I should live with the motto of this blog...Life is short, so write :)

I'm not changing the the name of the blog. It will still be mySungit.blogspot.com. However, there will be some significant changes. I'm viewing the subjects I'll be taking will be more broader. By the way inputs are welcome, so please post a comment and I'll see if I can work it out.

Empty cup

This day marks the end of mySungit and mrSilence story. A decision was made and I am sure it is the right one. No one is to be blame for the outcome. Both got its own shortcomings to share. But these were willingly noted and accepted. I am thankful though. This is my sweetest downfall I must say. I have learned allot of things especially with myself. Lessons which polished the real man in me. I am a whole new person of dignity.

Even though fate did not favor us, I am still grateful I was able to meet mySungit. And more than anything else, I would like to extend my gratitude for sharing a cup of your coffee...

Quit!

"Quiting is not losing. It is not a mark of defeat. It is gaining back a lost piece of your life from a state you thought is making progress."

I thinks it is inevitable that once in a person's lifetime, he would come to a point that the only reasonable choice to take is quitting. Not in the sense that he is a failure or loser, but rather got the courage to end something that he believe is fair and just in order to start anew.

I personally admire those type of people. How I wish I have the same courage and conviction on the actions that I do. Not that I'm an irresponsible person, but sometimes, there are certain things that my heart really is leaping for, but the moment passes by because I am just too scared that the turn of events won't favor me. Playing safe. Always weighing the possibility. A calculated risk.

Life should be a continuous struggle for improvement and growth, as what I believe. If you feel you are getting stagnant into something, whether it would be at work or in a relationship, don't be afraid to break free! Well, breaking free may not necessarily signify getting out totally, but may mean taking a refresh.. a timeout.

Quiting is not losing. It is not a mark of defeat. It is gaining back a lost piece of your life from a state you thought is making progress. Why waste time on your eighty years or less life enduring into something that does not make you happy?

Hope for the flower

A white rose to mySelf, myFriends and love one....

Im the second type

"Love is the one thing that will make these paralleled destiny intersect. Soul mates are Divine. Loved learned ones are Blessed..."

I just recently confirmed that I am the second type. I am not the soul mate type. Well that is the first type. A soul mate. The kind of person where once meet, a deep natural affinity is constituted. The love at first sight type. Almost no requirement since all is already given. However, this type I must say are rare. Most I know are found only in books and television. Some exist in real life though. But the chance of meeting one is one in a billionth. Nevertheless, this are not hopeless cases.

Being on the second category is not easy. I personally defined it as the loved learned ones. As opposed to the first type, this side requires more than just soul. Since there is no initial attraction, one has to build itself the aura of predisposition. The fireworks to catch notice. The blast to make the roaring sound of "I am here!".

Resources are usually maximized. Exhausted to minimal level. Moreover, some circumstances even requires a metamorphosis. Here, the sad part comes in. Becoming something you are not. Adjustments are necessary in order to fit in. Liking things you dislikes and forgetting things you normally do. Most of the time, actions taken are a make or break situation. And they usually break in the end. That maybe be due to the reason that you were misinterpreted or simply because you executed your plan poorly.

I would not like to sound prejudiced. Besides, this things are like anything else we have in life. They have their pros and cons. At the end of the day, it would not matter which category you fall in. What matter is, if you can answer YES! to the question, "Have I given my best shot?". Love is the one thing that will make these paralleled destiny intersect. Soul mates are Divine. Loved learned ones are Blessed...

Where did you fall?

The man with no name

"As I started my engine, it comes to me that we never said our names. Oh well, people names can be forgotten but the teachings I learned today will forever instill in my heart..."

09/06/07: The weather nowadays is very unpredictable. One moment the sun is shining, then all of a sudden its raining cats and dogs. I was halfway on the road when the rain suddenly poured. I was left with no choice but to stop at the nearest gas station. There I met this cool guy at his early 50's as I estimate in his look. It is not my habit to talk to stranger but what the heck, the rain would seem to last an hour as I read the clouds movement. (One ability you'll learn when you ride a bike is reading clouds).

We started talking about our motorcycles. Brands. Parts. Prices. Accidents. Boy, its nice to chat with people whom you share the same interest. However, the things that marked our conversation are the realization I made in real life.

~there will always be a black sheep and good sheep in the family
~life is hard, but it pays for those who persevere
~money can open opportunities
~to live a single life is a choice
~parents greatest wealth are his children who succeeded in life
~parents play favorites
~less is more
~its not always the brain that will lead you to success but on how you treat people
~life's short, keep it simple
~you can start a conversation with a smile
~listening to other people's stories even if you are not interested makes a big difference in their ego
~the sky will always clear after a heavy rain
~timing is a big factor in a decision

The rain lasted almost an hour. We parted ways smiling. As I started my engine, it comes to me that we never said our names. Oh well, people names can be forgotten but the teachings I learned today will forever instill in my heart...

C to the second power

"Shortcomings are inevitable on both parties since they are still separate individual being in mutual. It is here where the power of Cs' come in action!"

I believe in any relationship, two Cs' are needed in order for it to grow and flourish. Compromise and Communication. Dictionary defines them as follows:

Compromise
~ a: to come to agreement by mutual concession b: to find or follow a way between extremes
Communication
~ a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior

I personally defines compromise as give and take divided by personal differences multiplied to the tenth power of understanding. It is never easy to give in into something you have grown doing your way. However, the satisfaction you'll get in lowering your pride and dissolving your prejudices, I must say is priceless.

On the other hand, communication is another vital factor needed in steering a strong relation. But it should not just be an ordinary exchange of thoughts. It should be effective. In our current times, the medium to use barely depends on one's preference. But among all the means to convey, I prefer the personal means. Its sincere, direct, simple and not to mention cost effective :) You just have to open your mouth and speak out your mind. That's it!

However, with such simple task, I can't help but wonder why I can't execute it properly. No problem with my vocal anatomy. The thought is there. Sentences already composed. Even simulated to have the proper counter reaction should the end result failed. But then again, voicing them out seems like all dead air.

"Action speaks louder than words". This saying is not applicable to me. I tend to act too much, that I unconsciously forget to say those three simple words. Words that make a whole lot of difference. Utterance that starts a finish and finishes a start.

Currently, this is the predicament I am working on... to be more vocal on my ideas. To support my action plan, I am referencing a text message which mySungit sent last 16th of July. And it goes like...

"... Itng nung atn kng buri ishare, ali ka hesitnt. Emu isipan na sbyan da non sense makanyn.Or tng lako mu tng isipan mung mareject ka..."

Shortcomings are inevitable on both parties since they are still separate individual being in mutual. It is here where the power of Cs' come in action!

Stick Around

If I was born a singer, here's a song I would like sing to mySungit at this moment in time...

Stick Around
~Azure

How many times do I daydream
About making love to you
Take you to a special place
Where it’s only me and you
I put away all your troubles
On the other side of the world
And wrap my arms around your heart
And tell you you’re my girl

(So let’s go steal away in the night)
And I’ll go far away from here
(Tell you that’s where our love is right)
Can I take you to my world?

Chorus:
Whenever you’re sad
Whenever you’re crying
I’ll be the one who wipes away your tears
Whenever you’re cold
Whenever you need me
I’ll be the one who runs to you
Giving my love
When you know how much I love you
So you better not let me down
I’m not asking for too much, baby
Just stick around

I quiet day in the country
Or a rainy night in my room
We’ll hide away under the sheets
If the morning comes too soon
An afternoon in your eyes
Or a lifetime in your heart
Forever just ain’t long enough
But at least it’s a good start

(Falling deeper in love with you)
Will you be there to catch me girl?
(I hope your falling deep with me too)
Can I keep you in my world?

Chorus:
Whenever you’re sad
Whenever you’re crying
I’ll be the one who wipes away your tears
Whenever you’re cold
Whenever you need me
I’ll be the one who runs to you
Giving my love
When you know how much I love you
So you better not let me down
I’m not asking for too much, baby
Just stick around

Forever, forever
Ooh…would you come on baby
(let’s go steal away in the night)
And I’ll go far away from here
(Tell you that’s where our love is right)

Ooh..
Cause, whenever you’re sad
Whenever you’re crying
I’ll be the one who wipes away your tears
Whenever you call me
Whenever you need me
I’m gonna be right there for you and give you my love
Yeah, and you know how much I love you
So you better not let me down
I’m not asking for too much, baby
Just stick around

Forever, forever...

Reference:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=YOBZuCMnM-A